tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post181480652135322753..comments2024-01-12T19:59:04.720+04:00Comments on American Muslima Writer -Daring to Work Towards Jannah: Like a virgin!American Muslima Writerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17494763839971976761noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-77019140606820796832011-05-30T12:21:41.397+04:002011-05-30T12:21:41.397+04:00Actually, I just had to comment on the hadith you ...Actually, I just had to comment on the hadith you quoted. Its not Qudsi as a hadith qudsi is from Alla stating something from Allah reiterated by the prophet (sallahu allahy wa salam)...<br /><br />Anyways that hadith you are referencing to is about Jabir bin 'Abdullah who married a matron instead of a virgin because he had 9 or 7 sisters his father had left behind and he needed them to be cared for. You are correct the Prophet (sallahu allayhi wa salam) asked him why he did not marry a virgin so that he could play with her and she could play with her. <br /><br />anyways... personally, I would want my husband to be a virgin too. I also want him to be unmarried. If had never been married but was not a virgin I would probably freak out and believe that despite him being a virgin would have some jahiliyah in his heart and could relapse... I dont know why i think this but only Allah knows best... this is just my thinking :)Yasminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17863460832128766275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-34276636601652724922008-11-27T19:08:00.000+04:002008-11-27T19:08:00.000+04:00Kerala's in the southern part of India:)Kerala's in the southern part of India:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-17344798994025901302008-07-05T19:05:00.000+04:002008-07-05T19:05:00.000+04:00to each his own..personally I echo anonymous's com...to each his own..personally I echo anonymous's comments..youngMuslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07102054502431934540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-14319054662129890452008-06-28T11:28:00.000+04:002008-06-28T11:28:00.000+04:00There was just an article in the NYT about this to...There was just an article in the NYT about this topic... Specifically, women in the Muslim world having surgery to give the appearance of virginity. It is an interesting topic. <BR/><BR/>I think you can argue from all angles. I DO think men would like to try a virgin once in their lives... And at the same time all men would like the pleasure of a woman who knows what she is doing. <BR/><BR/>And for women, I don't remember giving it much thought. But DH was and I wasn't (I'm not revealing anything he and I wouldn't say to anyone here). I think we are a little unusual in the Muslim world that way. My concern when looking for a spouse was that the guy didn't have kids or previous marriages... The rest was between him and Allah.<BR/><BR/>Lets face it, virginity doesn't exempt people from sexual hang-ups... We all come with our baggage. But I think we should all strive to help our children understand that it is a question they can ask and expect an honest answer to when meeting potential spouses. Which is what makes me mad about these "restorative" operations is that people are going so far out of their way to lie about it. Give me a break.... If you did it, you did it and you should be honest.... IMHOUmmLaylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05288769161885258898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-90992198383548799102008-06-25T11:54:00.000+04:002008-06-25T11:54:00.000+04:00I think all men in general are obscessed with virg...I think all men in general are obscessed with virginity. Although I have to agree that if I were raised in a culture that says I, as a woman, should stay pure until marriage, I would expect to marry a man that believed that as well and upheld himself to those ideals.<BR/><BR/>~AmandaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-73471875584861104912008-06-25T08:59:00.000+04:002008-06-25T08:59:00.000+04:00Wassalam sister safiyyah,I'm from Kerala, a small ...Wassalam sister safiyyah,<BR/>I'm from Kerala, a small state on the northern tip of India. By saying our part of the world, I meant that place. Also, I don't think virginity is a problem in most eastern countries (although I'm not sure about it) and the middle east. May be in urban cities people tend to forget their morals, but in the villages where the majority lives, people don't often cross the limits.Najeebahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05039340593733276295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-39046595929456077302008-06-25T05:58:00.000+04:002008-06-25T05:58:00.000+04:00Salaams Sister Najeeba:What part of the world are ...Salaams Sister Najeeba:<BR/><BR/>What part of the world are you talking about?Safiyyahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07670659439981133346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-33670011091011347882008-06-25T02:53:00.000+04:002008-06-25T02:53:00.000+04:00well, personally, if i'm going to marry a born mus...well, personally, if i'm going to marry a born muslim, i would expect him to be a virgin. hey, i've kept myself pure until marriage and i think he should too. however, if i were to wed a convert, then...it depends.....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-56578636630685314312008-06-24T17:49:00.000+04:002008-06-24T17:49:00.000+04:00Assalamu alaikum,I don't think there is such an is...Assalamu alaikum,<BR/>I don't think there is such an issue of virginity in our part of the world - 'coz most of them are virgins. Both males and females. And I don't think Muslims are the only ones obssessed with virginity. Almost all people in India, regardless of reliegion, are obssessed with virginity, even though it is a Hindu majority country.Najeebahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05039340593733276295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-46208069286656815742008-06-24T02:08:00.000+04:002008-06-24T02:08:00.000+04:00In an ideal world, virgin women would marry virgin...In an ideal world, virgin women would marry virgin men at a young age. Let's face it, the hormones are strongest during adolescence. <BR/><BR/>Later, in the case of spousal death or divorce, neither man nor woman would be concerned with this matter.<BR/><BR/>And I, too, believe that Muslims are obssessed with virginity.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com