tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post4265876715828557382..comments2024-01-12T19:59:04.720+04:00Comments on American Muslima Writer -Daring to Work Towards Jannah: Lecture: Sheikh Hamza YusufAmerican Muslima Writerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17494763839971976761noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-63638957834183670632008-06-11T06:51:00.000+04:002008-06-11T06:51:00.000+04:00masha'allah, i like hamza yusuf. Have seen him at ...masha'allah, i like hamza yusuf. Have seen him at a few lectures now, and I actually bought the book 'purification of the heart' and your son is adorable masha'allah :)Adventurous Ammenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06130257311389290780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-11146390445356406072008-05-31T02:58:00.000+04:002008-05-31T02:58:00.000+04:00Salaams Yasmine:I know what you mean about being i...Salaams Yasmine:<BR/><BR/>I know what you mean about being in front of a lot of people, like the award presentation example ... it's always difficult. I, too, usually end up shaking the hand and asking Allah (swt) for forgiveness in my mind. <BR/><BR/>One time, some real high-up prison officials came to our prison. One of the big-wigs who happened to be from India offered his hand to me. I purpose told HIM that I didn't shake hands because I figured that he is from India and definitely should know better. I was offended by him. <BR/><BR/>But by others who don't know better or know anything about Islam I don't take it personally at all. I usually use the following:<BR/><BR/>"I'm sorry, please don't take it personally or be offended, but I don't shake the hands of men for religious reasons."<BR/><BR/>I have found that practically everyone understands and someone even once said to me, "Oh, I learned something today." (smile)<BR/><BR/>BTW Yasmine ... Estoy bien, gracias. Cada dia es algo diferente con mi salud, pero ... tu hablas espanol, Yasmine? Debemos empezar un blog en espanol!Safiyyahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07670659439981133346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-80475513554676125132008-05-30T00:44:00.000+04:002008-05-30T00:44:00.000+04:00YOu are right safiyyah, It can be sort of intimate...YOu are right safiyyah, It can be sort of intimate. Most men think in that terms whether they are muslim or not. So in a way its a way of protecting ourselves. I usually don't hand shake muslim men but when my dean is introducing me or I am recieving an award in a ceremony they offer my hand and well it would be rather odd and rude if I let them hanging in from off hundreds/thousands of people. <BR/><BR/>In regards to men interpretting everything intimate is true. My male friends and relatives used to brag how they are so desireable because women look or smile at them. <BR/><BR/>It has also happened to me in which I have only smiled at some random guy and he is suddenly looking at me as if I am his property following me around with a crooked smile (usually hispanic, arab, black men). They think for some odd reason that I am giving them a hint that I want them. So i can only imagine a handshake.. thanks for the advice chica..<BR/><BR/>btw como estas?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-70233075282556772682008-05-27T23:42:00.000+04:002008-05-27T23:42:00.000+04:00OK all who wrote about the shaking hands I just ha...OK all who wrote about the shaking hands I just had to make a post about it so feel free to copy and paste your answers from here to the other post and further comments about shaking hands should go to the other post plz.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your comments!!!! And I was gonna tease you MM about your remark too but yas beat me to the punch lol.American Muslima Writerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17494763839971976761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-47202735113053472852008-05-27T19:53:00.000+04:002008-05-27T19:53:00.000+04:00Salaams Everyone:I can't speak to whether or not i...Salaams Everyone:<BR/><BR/>I can't speak to whether or not it's a sin because I'm not a sheikh or scholar. I'd have to look it up.<BR/><BR/>But it is definitely Sunnah and the Prophet (saw) definitely saw touching a woman he wasn't related to as an act of intimacy. He was never known to touch a non-related woman. He would not even take the handshake oath of allegience from the Ansari women prior to battle because they were female and he therefore made a different type of oath. <BR/><BR/>What's the big deal, and why do Muslims insist on being so rebellious?<BR/><BR/>Touch is a very powerful thing. I think it IS intimate. Isn't that the whole purpose of purdah, not to be molested (touched/seen) by non-related men?Safiyyahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07670659439981133346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-79514856098339590392008-05-27T02:32:00.000+04:002008-05-27T02:32:00.000+04:00in regards to the hand shaking:I have to remind my...in regards to the hand shaking:<BR/><BR/>I have to remind myself not to do that when I am around muslim men. Its so difficult to remember. Once i almost shook my sheikh hand and my friends son. <BR/><BR/>I find it rather rude if a non-muslim man is going to shake my hand i just leave them hanging. I really don't see it as something intimate. I can only imagine how awkward it could have been for those watching... just hilarious. <BR/><BR/>Usually i also offer my hand when introducing myself even to non-muslim men. its just an inclination of mine when i meet others.Yasminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17863460832128766275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-10160164029929329372008-05-27T02:22:00.000+04:002008-05-27T02:22:00.000+04:00YEAH SURE THE BABY MISSMUSLIMAH ;).. IF YOU SAY SO...YEAH SURE THE BABY MISSMUSLIMAH ;).. IF YOU SAY SO... <BR/><BR/>lol JUST KIDDING.. ... we all understood what you really meant ... you are so funny..Yasminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17863460832128766275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-31647482729300003552008-05-26T22:40:00.000+04:002008-05-26T22:40:00.000+04:00Hamza Yusuf is one of my favorite speakers. He has...Hamza Yusuf is one of my favorite speakers. He has come to Doha on numerous occasions and I find such a nice sincerity and goodness in his manner. And btw, I shake hands all the time. It is an ingrained part of my cultural upbringing and I don't relate it to any act of intimacy. I do understand how Arabs and many Muslims feel so I generally wait for a man to offer his hand first.<BR/><BR/>Your son is adorable maash'Allah.<BR/><BR/>Salaam,<BR/>PMAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-7274923239754969792008-05-26T13:37:00.000+04:002008-05-26T13:37:00.000+04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07941668338178323511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-21733275576162098452008-05-26T10:55:00.000+04:002008-05-26T10:55:00.000+04:00salamu alaykumlove the way your son is looking at ...salamu alaykum<BR/><BR/>love the way your son is looking at Hamza Yusuf....like, "who the heck is this guy holding me?!"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-67997160290626946012008-05-26T05:24:00.000+04:002008-05-26T05:24:00.000+04:00LOOL! I mean THE BABY! ;-) Not hamza yusuf,lol.......LOOL! I mean THE BABY! ;-) Not hamza yusuf,lol.....Miss Muslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08955334002896419040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-12904389516679193002008-05-26T03:00:00.000+04:002008-05-26T03:00:00.000+04:00Salaams Sis:Yes, my eyebrows went up at the handsh...Salaams Sis:<BR/><BR/>Yes, my eyebrows went up at the handshake thing, too, but I didn't say anything. You would think that the sheikha would know. Gheez, maybe it was awkward for everyone.Safiyyahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07670659439981133346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-28902817802316908412008-05-26T02:28:00.000+04:002008-05-26T02:28:00.000+04:00Ill admit I didnt read the post-YET! I will,but I ...Ill admit I didnt read the post-YET! I will,but I just had to comment on your pics....he's soooo cuuuuuttte! Masha'allah!Miss Muslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08955334002896419040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-7609602931802754452008-05-26T00:19:00.000+04:002008-05-26T00:19:00.000+04:00oh my gosh that is soooooo coool sis.. you are so ...oh my gosh that is soooooo coool sis.. you are so funny too.. :) your baby is soooo cute mashallah...Yasminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17863460832128766275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-70417517728488897712008-05-25T13:31:00.000+04:002008-05-25T13:31:00.000+04:00Veiled Muslimah- I'm sorry you couldn't get to it ...Veiled Muslimah- I'm sorry you couldn't get to it because masha'Allah it was very amazing all the things that Muslims have invented yet don't get credit for.<BR/><BR/>I didn't state this controversy in the main article because that wasn't the point of my post but my Canadian friend was soooo angry when I told her he shook her hand. Remember she was watching the kids so she didn't see it. She says in another of his lectures he goes on and on about NOT SHAKING WOMEN'S HANDS. So she was really dissapointed in him about this. Naturally I am too because he didn't have to shake her hand he could have done the muslim thing and just put his hand on his chest in the welcome gesture. Ah well what can we say?<BR/><BR/>Safiyyah yes mash'Allah its got the wheels turning for sure in my head.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for saying my baby is a cutie Alahmadulliah. Little half Arab half Caucasian/Scottish. I love half babies!American Muslima Writerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17494763839971976761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-91626421494109756302008-05-25T07:10:00.000+04:002008-05-25T07:10:00.000+04:00PS - your son is adorable, Masha Allah!PS - your son is adorable, Masha Allah!Safiyyahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07670659439981133346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-64273370395611650892008-05-25T07:04:00.000+04:002008-05-25T07:04:00.000+04:00Salaams Sis:Wow! That's a priceless pic! We use ...Salaams Sis:<BR/><BR/>Wow! That's a priceless pic! <BR/><BR/>We use the Purification of the Heart in our halaqa. It is wonderful, Masha Allah, isn't it?Safiyyahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07670659439981133346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797518818272666624.post-2815786273998143892008-05-25T01:48:00.000+04:002008-05-25T01:48:00.000+04:00Your Son is adorable masha'allah. I heard about th...Your Son is adorable masha'allah. I heard about the lecture, but couldn't make it because I was in Dubai.<BR/><BR/>I'm suprised he shook hands with her, but wa allahu a3lam, he probably doesn't view it as being wrong.Veiled Muslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06547216732501795559noreply@blogger.com